Struggles

STRUGGLES are required in order to survive in life,
because in order to stand up,
you gotta know what falling down is like

You'll learn

No matter what, once in your life, someone will hurt you. That someone will take all that you are and rip it into pieces and they won't even watch where the pieces lands. But through the breakdown, you'll learn something about yourself. You'll learn that you're strong. And no matter how hard they destroy you, you can conquer anyone.

the strongest people

some people think that to be strong is to never feel pain. In reality, the strongest people are the ones who feel it, understand it, accept and learn from it.

In the eyes of a child

When I was a child, I was afraid of ghosts..
As I grew up, I realized people are more scary..

because...

I'm strong because I've been weak.

I'm brave because I've been afraid.

I'm wise because I've been foolish.

The shoe box

A man and woman had been married for more than 63 years. They had shared everything. They had talked about everything. They had kept no secrets from each other except that the little Old woman had a shoe box in the top of her closet that she had Cautioned her husband never to open or ask her about.

For all of these years, he had never thought about the box, but One day the little old woman got very sick and the doctor said it will take time to heal.

In trying to sort out their affairs, the little old man took down the shoe box and took it to his wife's bedside. She agreed that it was time that he should know what was In the box. When he opened it, he found two crocheted dolls And a stack of money totaling $95,000.

He asked her about the contents. 'When we were to be married,' she said, ' my grandmother told me that the secret of a happy marriage was to never argue. She told me that  If I ever got angry with you, I should just keep quiet and crochet a doll.'

The little old man was so moved; he had to fight back tears.

Only two Precious dolls were in the box. She had only been angry with him two Times in all those years of living and loving. He almost burst with Happiness. 'Honey,' he said, 'that explains the doll, but what about all of this money?  Where did it come from?'

'Oh,' she said, 'that's the money I made from selling the dolls.'

A Prayer.......
Dear God, I pray for Wisdom to understand my man;
Love to forgive him; And Patience for his moods;
Because God, if I pray for Strength, I'll beat him to death,
Because I don't have time to crochet.

Keep going

Keep going! NO matter what you do,
no matter how many times you screw up
and think to yourself that there's
no point to carry on or no matter how
many people tell you that you can't
do it - keep going. Don't quit.
Don't quit because a few months from now
you will be that much closer to your
goal than you are now. Yesterday you
said tomorrow. MAKE TODAY COUNT.

Just breathe

Things change, people change. Sometimes it sucks and sometimes its for the best. But it's hard to keep your head up when it hurts so much, but you have to always remind yourself things will get better from here, so take a deep breath and breathe.

sometimes..

Sometimes things have to go wrong before they can go right. Sometimes we have to let the wrong people walk out before we allow the right people to walk in. Sometimes we have to feel weak in order to know what its like to feel strong. Sometimes you have to be broken to realize you will never be shattered. Sometimes you have to be " in like " before you can be " in love ". Sometimes you have to take the good in with the bad to know what's actually worthwhile.

make a way

I am exhausted, but I'm up for the fight.
I am broken, but I am determined to make things right.
I am lost, but God is my light.

temporary

You can break down a woman temporarily, but a real woman will always pick-up the pieces, rebuild herself and come back stronger than ever.

Karma

Karma when people insult you, don't take offense, don't take it personally, but do listen to their words. They are telling you how they see the wold and they are telling you the exact negative qualities that they possess. " The Law of Mirrors" states that one can only see what's in them, regardless if it is what is actually present in reality or not. Realize the need to defend or try to explain to them that you're not being whatever -nasty- insult they've thrown at you, but evaluate instead all of these insults and realize that this is who they are. Then, decide if a person with those qualities is one who you'd like in your life or not.

The problem is...

You know what your problem is? You get attached, fast. And once you're attached to someone, you do everything you can to please them and make them happy. It's never been about what you want, it's always everyone's needs before your own. You give out too many chances to people, who quite frankly, do not deserve them. they take advantage of you, and you become a pushover. But you're okay with that, because they're in your life and that's all you ever wanted. And even if they screw you over, you'll still be there for them. because that's you, that's who you are. Once you get attached to someone, they capture your heart and they always have a place there. And that's why it's so hard for you to let them go..

I am responsible

“I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening. I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen. How I respond to them defines my character. It defines the quality of my life. I can chose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can chose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have; LIFE itself"

Think before you talk

Everyone has secrets they don't wanna share. Everyone has a past that no one heard about. Everyone has talents that people don't notice. Everyone has a story left untold. So never start judging someone, thinking like you know them. Because the truth is..... you probably don't.

You are beautiful

"Hey YOU, yes you. Stop being unhappy with yourself, you are perfect. Stop wishing you were someone else or that someone liked you as much as they like someone else. Stop trying to get attention from those who hurt you. Stop hating your body, your face, your personality, your quirks, Love them. without those things you wouldn't be you. Be confident with who you are. Smile, it'll draw people in. If anyone hates you because you're happy with yourself forget them.. Your happiness doesn't depend on others. Be happy because you love who you are, Love your flaws, Love your imperfections, because they make you and "You" are pretty amazing."

SHE

You may not be her first, her last, or her only. She loved before, she may love again. But if she loves you now, what else matters? She's not perfect - you aren't either, and the two of you may never be perfect together but if she can make you laugh, cause you to think twice, and admit to being human and making mistakes, hold onto her and give her the most you can. She may not be thinking about you every second of the day, but she will give you a part of her that she knows you can break - her heart. So don't hurt her, don't change her, don't analyze and don't expect more than she can give. Smile when she makes you happy, let her know when she makes you mad, and miss her when she's not there.

No Accidents

Do you believe that there are no accidents in life? Everything happens for a reason. Every person we meet will have a role in our lives, be it big or small. Some will hurt, betray and make us cry, to become stronger. Some will teach us lesson, not to change us, but for us to realize our mistakes and to help us grow, and make us a better person. And some would simply inspire and love us to make us HAPPY.

eye of the soul

I judge you not by what you wear, whether your garment is of rag or riches, or your skin is of a color white or black. Whether you wear some gold or trinkets, or decorate yourself with stones and diamond. I see you with the eye of soul.

I know you, for who you are inside of you, not for your smiles, smiles could be false. Not for your looks, looks could deceive. Not for your appearance, that won't last . And not for your clothes, that only covers. I see you with the eye of soul.

I am a friend to you, inside of you, indifferent to your dose of limitation, forgiving to your human flaws of character, unyielding to rumors and gossips about you. For the eye within sees even more, I see you with the eye of soul

I've Learned ....

I've learned that I cannot count on others to respect my feelings even if i respect theirs.  Being a good person doesn't guarantee that others will be good people too.  You only have control over yourself  on how you choose to be as a person. And for the others, you can only choose to accept them or walk away.

the truth is....

there will be always people who don't like you; the way you look, the way you talk, the things you say, the way you dress, the things you believe in, the music you listen to. but the truth is: it is up to you if you let them ruin your day or if you learn to stand up for yourself and accept yourself just the way you are. try to be as good as you can. and if that's not enough for them, it will certainly be for someone else. you're not here to please anyone. just be a nice person and true to yourself.

YOU

So many tears have been cried from the disrespect, the unhappiness and the abuse that many have faced throughout their lives and those tears are not to be cried no more. The only tears to be ever cried are tears of happiness and joy and for the new beginning of living your life the way you want to live. Nobody has any kind of right to walk all over you and try to control you. Nobody has any kind of right to bully you and abuse you. You are beautiful and unique in every way; you are special and everyday is your beautiful day. You have pride, dignity, and true love within your heart, you own it and that is never to be taken away.

Love your Parents

For those of us who are fortunate enough to still have a parent or both of our parents around, we must be willing to love them. Honor and respect your parents by making attempts to give them your time, and your efforts as much as you possibly can. Remember as each day passes, not only are you getting older, but so are they. Be helpful, and make yourself as useful as possible to them.

Not everyone had a perfect childhood growing up, and everyone is at different places with their parents, guardians, or whoever may have raised them, but we should always try to live in each day as it comes, instead of choosing to live in the past, and hold on to emotions or feelings that may cause us to move away people who truly love us, but like all humans, have made mistakes. Honor your father and mother, one day you will grow old, and you will need your kids around just as your own parents need you around!

looking back

One day you will look back and laugh at what has passed and you will ask yourself "how did I get through all of that?" and you will find yourself wiser and so much stronger. Have faith, hold on and never let go. Be light. Be love.  Everything will be okay.

strong enough

There comes a time in life, when you walk away from all the drama and people who create it. Surround yourself with people who make you laugh, forget the bad, and focus on the good. Love the people who treat you right. Pray for the ones who don't. Life is too short to be anything but happy. Falling down is part of life, getting back up is living.

yourself worth

If you're not being treated with love and repect.. check your price tag. Perhaps you have marked yourself down. It's you who tell people what you're worth by what you accept. Get off the clearance rack and get behind the glass where they keep the valuables!
Bottom line: Value yourself! If you don't, no one else will.

Thank you

To all the people along the way who hurt me, lied to me, betrayed me, disappointed me, broke my heart... You unknowingly pointed me in the direction of my own North Star. Without the messes, I wouldn't have a message. You taught me more than you could ever take from me. Thank you.

Generation X

Relationships are harder now because conversations became texting, arguments became phone calls, feelings became subliminal messages, sex became easy, the word "love" is used out of context, insecurities became a way of thinking, getting jealous became a habit, trust is hard to come by, being hurt became natural & leaving became the only option. Sad but true, so if you have something that's worth it, don't take it for granted, fight for it & don't let it go.

step up

It is not easy to live life sometimes, and face the world with a smile when you're crying inside. It takes a lot of courage to reach down inside yourself, hold on to that strength that's still there, and know that tomorrow is a new day with new possibilities.
But if you can hold on long enough to this, you'll come out a new person stronger, with more understanding and with a new pride in yourself from knowing that you made it!

better YOU

I've made mistakes in my life, I've let people take advantage of me and I accepted way less than I deserve. But I've learned from my bad choices and even though there are some things I can never get back and people will never be sorry, I'll know better next time and I won't settle for anything less than I deserve.

start over

For what it's worth: It's never too late or, in my case, too early to be whoever you want to be. There's no time limit, stop whenever you want. You can change or stay the same, there are no rules to this thing. We can make the best or the worst of it. I hope you make the best of it. And I hope you see things that startle you. I hope you feel things you never felt before. I hope you meet people with a different point of view. I hope you have a life you're proud of. If you find that you're not, I hope you have the strength to start all over again.
                                                                                                                    

Inner voice

I believe that what we get out of life is what we’ve set ourselves up to
get, so there’s no such thing as an inconsequential decision. Our
destinies are the culmination of all the choices we’ve made along the
way, which is why it’s imperative to listen hard to your inner voice
when it speaks up. Don’t let anyone else’s noise drown it out...

maybe, not exactly

Any one can know my feelings when I'm around but no one can tell how I feel when I'm alone, so don't you judge me; maybe you know me but not exactly!

life goes on

Laugh when you can. Apologize when you should. And let go of what you can’t change. Love deeply and forgive quickly. Take chances and give your everything. Life is too short to be anything but happy. You have to take the good with the bad. Love what you got. Always remember what you had. Forgive, but don’t forget. Learn from your mistakes but never regret. People change and things go wrong, But always remember that life goes on.

Father's Love

Father's Love (Emotional Story, you might cry)

There was a son who lives with his father who lost both his legs in an accident and is very weak because of his incurable disease. The son felt so helpless and get tired of taking care of his Father so he made a decision. The next morning, he carried his Father on his back and lead him to the heart of the forest where nobody could find him. On their way to the forest, he noticed his Father was cutting every branch of the trees that they pass by. So he asked his Father: "Father, what are you doing, why are you cutting those branches?" His father replied: "My dear son, I cut those branches so you could find your way back home."


- A father is a man who expects his son to be as good a man as he meant to be. A father is someone who carries pictures where his money used to be.

this is me

i am in competition with no one.
i run my own race.
i have no desire to play the game
of being better than anyone,
in any way, shape or form.
i just aim to improve,
to be better than i was before.
that's me and i'm free.

Imperfect -- but Real

I am just misunderstood by many. My minds eye is certainly not bastardized by hypocrites and back stabbers.
I am a fish going against the current of gossip and mendacity.

I won't pretend just to have a good image, i prefer to be seen at my worst, not
to be dislike nor to be condemned but to be accepted and to be loved
despite having the most terrible personality i could have.....
HURT ME, IMITATE ME, THIS IS STILL ME, IMPERFECT BUT REAL.

Critics

As much as I hate critics sometimes because they do love to bash even though in reality they can’t even do half the things they criticize. But one should know that there are times that you need to listen to what they say and be open-minded. Because you’ll learn something out of it.

Attitude

“I am responsible. Although I may not be able to prevent the worst from happening. I am responsible for my attitude toward the inevitable misfortunes that darken life. Bad things do happen. How I respond to them defines my character. It defines the quality of my life. I can chose to sit in perpetual sadness, immobilized by the gravity of my loss, or I can chose to rise from the pain and treasure the most precious gift I have:  LIFE itself"
                                                                                                                                     
                                                                                                                 ~Walter Anderson

I'm A Woman

I'm  A Woman

I'm pretty but I'm Beautiful,

I sin but I'm not the Devil,

I'm good but I'm not an Angel.

Love me for who I really am,

not who you want me to be!

A Gift of Love to a Friend

I've nothing else to offer
so its love to you I'll send
its nothing that i borrowed
and its nothing that I'd lend
it has no dollar value
and it cant be over used
it Isn't fragile, so it will not break
but often its abused
I've given it to others
but each time its unique
its meaning is always different
depending on what you seek
its something you can store away
to feel when you're in need
but never is it on display
its beauty cant be seen
I'm giving it to you
no strings attached
no costly warranty
because this love i am sending
has a lifetime guarantee ....

Friends indeed!

Its the quality not the quantity that counts. I'm more than satisfied with the number of friends I can count on my fingers and stick with me no matter what, than those hundreds of so-called friends who leave you behind when the roads gets ROUGH!

Transparent

The only dream worth having is to dream that you will live while you’re alive and die only when you’re dead… 

To love. To be loved. To never forget your own insignificance. To never get used to the unspeakable violence and vulgar disparity of life around you. To seek joy in the saddest places. To pursue beauty to its lair. To never simplify what is complicated or to complicate what is simple. To respect strength, never power. Above all, to watch. To try and understand. To never look away. And never, never to forget.

                                                                                                                  - Arundhati Roy

Keep out

Sometimes it is necessary to limit or eliminate your contact with certain individuals who bring you more misery than peace and do not reflect or allow you to be the person that you truly are or aspire to become. Instead, surround yourself with positive thinkers who are not always creating drama. Choose people who make your day brighter simply by being around them. Find those who you admire; you are proud to know; and who support, motivate and encourage you to grow.

The story of a BLIND GIRL

The story of a blind girl   

There was a blind girl who hated herself just because she was blind. She hated everyone, except her loving boyfriend. He was always there for her. She said that if she could only see the world, she would marry her boyfriend.

One day, someone donated a pair of eyes to her and then she could see everything, including her boyfriend. Her boyfriend asked her, “now that you can see the world, will you marry me?”

The girl was shocked when she saw that her boyfriend was blind too, and refused to marry him. Her boyfriend walked away in tears, and later wrote a letter to her saying:

“Just take care of my eyes dear.”

- This is how human brain changes when the status changed. Only few remember what life was before and who’s always been there even in the most painful situations.

Storm of life

Sometimes fate is like a small sandstorm that keeps changing directions. You change direction but the sandstorm chases you. You turn again, but the storm adjusts. Over and over you play this out, like some ominous dance with death just before dawn. Why? Because this storm isn’t something that blew in from far away, something that has nothing to do with you. This storm is you. Something inside of you. So all you can do is give in to it, step right inside the storm, closing your eyes and plugging up your ears so the sand doesn’t get in, and walk through it, step by step. There’s no sun there, no moon, no direction, no sense of time. Just fine white sand swirling up into the sky like pulverized bones. That’s the kind of sandstorm you need to imagine.

And you really will have to make it through that violent, metaphysical, symbolic storm. No matter how metaphysical or symbolic it might be, make no mistake about it: it will cut through flesh like a thousand razor blades. People will bleed there, and you will bleed too. Hot, red blood. You’ll catch that blood in your hands, your own blood and the blood of others.

And once the storm is over you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, in fact, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.

- Haruki Murakami